Every morning make a conscious commitment to eliminate blame, criticism, and invalidation from your side of the relationship. Pay attention to and express appreciation for positive things your partner says or does – no matter how small. Ask your partner to write down what makes him/her feel loved and special. Do the same for yourself. […]
Lots of people, including myself love the New Year, because it is a time of letting go and an opportunity to begin anew. What a wonderful concept, to draw a line in the sand and say to oneself, “I am leaving my past behind, “the would have, could have, should have”, all the regrets. Basically, […]
We all have desires, some are helpful but some are very destructive. When a desire becomes an over whelming compulsion, it feels like you have no choice, but to satisfy it. When you are confronted with such a desire, it is important to think things through. Whether this desire is for a piece of cake, […]
Honoring Your Body and Emotions: by Isobel McGrath St. Thomas Aquinas is famous for referring to his body as “the faithful ass on which he rode”. Many of us treat our bodies this way. We see our bodies as a vehicle or an object, separate from ourselves. Women often grow up disliking their bodies. When […]
Everybody dreams, we usually have 5 dreams per night, yet some of us never remember our dreams. The reason for this is often a lack of interest and awareness of how beneficial working on our dreams can be. Recorded dreamwork goes back to Assyrian-Babylonian times and can be found in Egyptian hieroglyphics and the Bible (over 700 recorded […]
Solutions for a Better Body Image I often work with people who dislike their bodies. They are either “too fat”, “too thin”, “big hips”, “big thighs” etc etc. The list continues. People tend to feel more comfortable talking about what is wrong with their body, rather than what is right. Here are some pointers to […]
Many people ask, “Why should I spend time, energy and money in analyzing myself” i.e. understanding why they feel and think what they do. This is truly the crux of counseling, it is all about getting to know yourself, what makes you ‘tick’, what upsets you and why. The purpose of this self knowledge is […]
